"But I really think that far from frivolous, what we dress ourselves in (call it fashion or not) affects the way we feel about our roles and our self-esteem in general."
I think I've only really come to feel this, but it can have such an impact. Perhaps for some people it doesn't, and for some it may feel that it shouldn't, but for me it …
"But I really think that far from frivolous, what we dress ourselves in (call it fashion or not) affects the way we feel about our roles and our self-esteem in general."
I think I've only really come to feel this, but it can have such an impact. Perhaps for some people it doesn't, and for some it may feel that it shouldn't, but for me it certainly does. I always loathe going clothes shopping, especially for the $ that I would rather spend on things that are locally/ethically made etc, but upon returning home with something lovely I always feel invigorated by the experience. (Obviously I then forget that invigoration and feel a lot of reactance about going shopping again, which is why it doesn't happen very often!)
I also hate going shopping, Nathan! I much prefer to buy online these days as I always end up buying things in a panic in the shop. I prefer to try them at home where I feel more 'myself', though this does then mean returning items sometimes...What I have really found has helped in the past 12 months or so is to nail down exactly what it is that I feel most 'myself' in (in whichever role I'm going to wear the thing) and then try to only buy something that fits with that. I still make mistakes though!
Love all these tips and strategies...as well as confessions. :)
I can only online shop if I really know the brand. I do it mainly in the US where the deals are 🔥 and I can pick it up whenever I'm on my annual trip home. What's interesting online though is that you can - as you say - do it when you're in the right frame of mind.
That's a great strategy. My wife has certainly turned more to online shopping for clothes after identifying the stores that work well and fit well for her.
"But I really think that far from frivolous, what we dress ourselves in (call it fashion or not) affects the way we feel about our roles and our self-esteem in general."
I think I've only really come to feel this, but it can have such an impact. Perhaps for some people it doesn't, and for some it may feel that it shouldn't, but for me it certainly does. I always loathe going clothes shopping, especially for the $ that I would rather spend on things that are locally/ethically made etc, but upon returning home with something lovely I always feel invigorated by the experience. (Obviously I then forget that invigoration and feel a lot of reactance about going shopping again, which is why it doesn't happen very often!)
I also hate going shopping, Nathan! I much prefer to buy online these days as I always end up buying things in a panic in the shop. I prefer to try them at home where I feel more 'myself', though this does then mean returning items sometimes...What I have really found has helped in the past 12 months or so is to nail down exactly what it is that I feel most 'myself' in (in whichever role I'm going to wear the thing) and then try to only buy something that fits with that. I still make mistakes though!
Love all these tips and strategies...as well as confessions. :)
I can only online shop if I really know the brand. I do it mainly in the US where the deals are 🔥 and I can pick it up whenever I'm on my annual trip home. What's interesting online though is that you can - as you say - do it when you're in the right frame of mind.
That's a great strategy. My wife has certainly turned more to online shopping for clothes after identifying the stores that work well and fit well for her.